Nobody wants to grieve. Sadness isn’t a good thing. In fact, it leads to more troubles for the person who lets it go from grief to depression.

Grief leads to depression

In February 2017, one of Nathan’s good friends, whose drinking he’d been worried about for a long time, died from a heart attack related to alcohol.

In hindsight, he felt he should have spoken up. Instead, he got into deep rumination for his friend, until he died.

“That experience left me with some guilt and struggling with grief and depression that I had never experienced before,” he said.

He knew objectively and logically that his life was amazing, and he had tons of people around him that loved him, but he just kept waking up sad.

Prior to this, he didn’t really understand depression. He kind of thought people should just suck it up and get over it.

Now, he knows he was totally wrong.

Now, as he tried to process his grief, Nathan leaned on his wife.

According to him: “I really put the burden on her to try to solve my grief, and that was just totally unfair and put strain on our marriage,” Nathan said.

In this case, grief led to marriage problems.