I (28, M) recently went on a date. I met Sally (fake name, 25, F) on Hinge, connected well and we both decided to meet for drinks. I don’t go to Hinge for hookups but s*x does happen when you connect with someone and I like to be prepared so I will bring protection.

The night goes well — great conversation, great chemistry — and she invites me back to her place. We talk a little longer and we get to her bedroom and as things get hot and heavy, I pull out a condom.

And then room dynamic changes. She questions why I brought a condom and then politely asks me to leave. As I get home, apologizing in the process, she states that she doesn’t like the idea that I was potentially expecting to get lucky — understandable — and doesn’t think it will work.

After bringing this back to the friend — male and female — group, it has been mixed feedback. On one hand, it is responsible to bring your own protection. On the other, it is kind of a weird move to do that early in the dating process. Wanting to hear the thoughts from the general population, especially as it is pretty common for me to bring a condom on a first date.

AITAH for wanting to be safe if a situation happens but also expecting a situation to potentially happen early in dating?

E: Explaining “hot and heavy”: making out with physical touch and clothes being removed. Intercourse was next, I just didn’t want this to post to focus on erotica/s*x but rather the idea of “the presumption of s*x.”